How Do I Help Someone With Cancer?

I can remember a lot of people asking me "what can I do to help?". I never knew what to tell them. I was almost too overwhelmed to know what I needed. I have asked this question of other survivors in order to give people some ideas on what they can do to help.

• Tell me that the side effects from chemo will soon go away.
• allow me to share my feelings/emotions
• Be hopeful.
• Be patient with me, help me find resources to learn about my cancer
• be positive and encouraging
• Be there
• BE THERE FOR ME AND ANYONE ELSE WITH CANCER
• Be there for me when I need a shoulder to lean on.
• Be there for me when i'm having a bad day or just feel like a chat
• be there, give advice and most importnantly PRAY for her~
• Be there. Listen, explain. Everyday is different
• Bear With Me On My Worst Days, Sorry
• Become a SCT-BMT donor and encourage others to do same
• Bring about awareness
• Chat, email, pick me up when I feel down
• Do not Judge Me
• Donate
• DONATE $1 OR AS MUCH AS YOU CAN:this will help a child left behind. get a fresh start in the real world.
• Donate to the ACS. Also, visit www.bellisimobracelets.com & support cancer research (and see my 'little sister' bracelet from my dear 'big sister')
• dont loose the faith
• Donte to the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure
• Ease my burdens not by saying, "let me know what I can do", because I can't get that far on my own. Ease them by just taking charge of what I am worrying about, I am very open about the things that need doing that I can't get to.
• Email me or call me so I can hear a real live person so I can talk, cry or laugh with them and they will understand. This is what I really need--it's called LOVE and that's what I'll give you in return.
• encourage colonoscopies early, buy prints of artwork
• Encourage me !!!
• Enjoy their own lives!
• Fight for those who have cancer. Cancer hits when you least expect it and it doesn't matter who you are!
• fundraise for sarcoma foundation
• Get the word out to the medical community to make more women aware of gynecological cancer symptoms
• gimme puppies!!!
• give me books and love
• Give,Give,Give
• Go get your damn mammogram!
• Go on my website and purchase a calendar for $10
• Help me feel not so alone
• Help me financially so that I can help others.
• help me to realize that I can still be sexy and not so selfconsious about my breast
• Help me to stay positive.
• help me to talk. I'm stuck in my head.afraid to scare everyone.
• Hold on loosely, but don't let go. TRY to be normal!
• I have so much support and I can't think of anything that they don't already do
• I'm not sure - maybe just love me
• If you have an alternative therapy you believe in please share it, but then please don't pressure someone with cancer to try it. You have no idea what all they are dealing with and what they need most from you is love and support. Mention it once... then support.
• Inform me what is next.
• Inform Others of the Danger
• Join my mission to create a global chain of hope and donate fleece throw blankets and small gifts for adults and children.
• Join my Team or Make a Donation at StandUp2Cancer.org toward the Megin S. Fanz Memorial Fund
• Just be there for me.
• Just be understanding while I am going through all of the ups and downs
• Just listen to me bitc*h
• Just love me
• just support
• Keep doing what they are doing, making me laugh!
• Keep Learning!
• keep me in your prayers, share your experiences for I am new and don't know what to expect
• Keep me laughing
• Keep positive spirit and a permanet smile.
• Laugh at me and with me
• Let me talk about being scared that cancer will come back.
• listen
• listen to me babble :o
• Listen, and just 'be' with me
• Listen. Learn. Ask. Share
• love me
• Love me
• Make and donate hats to chemo patients who lose their hair as a result of the treatments. Wigs suck.
• Make me laugh!
• make me laugh!!!!
• Make me laugh.
• massage, encourage me to do something fun, take me out,
• Our getting cancer is as hard for family & friends as it is for us. They`re fear of us dying is very difficult, and so they tend to place us in this bubble, tapping on it to see if we are doing okay. I really do appreciate the love, care,concern, & support that I have recieved, sometimes I feel overwhelmed by it all.I have always been rather independant & strong minded, some would call it stubborn. So what my supporter can do for me is to rely on me to let them know when I need help. i have been blessed so far to feeling pretty good, and can still take care of my family much as I did before this life altering diagnosis. that in it`s self is a blessing of which I do not ever lose sight of
• P.U.S.H. : Pray Until Something Happens!
• pray
• Pray and be positive around mom
• Pray and get mammograms.
• Pray and give to cancer organizations
• Pray and write to me
• Pray for everyone's pain and suffering.
• Pray for me
• Pray for me and donate to this site and to cancer research if you can.
• Pray for me...Love me...Comfort me.
• pray for my family and I
• pray for strength
• Pray Pray Pray
• PRAY!
• Pray, Good Thoughts
• Pray, vote, pray, dream, pray, believe, pray. Live Long, Laugh Often, Love Much
• Pray; Get your mammogram; Make me laugh
• Pray; suggest financial resources; make me laugh; send money
• Promote early detection
• Push me to get up, push me to get out, push me to make an effort to look good, tell me jokes. Share good news with me. Keep living and allow me to get my life back on track. Understand I will not be the same person next year.
• Raise awareness and pray
• Send prayers and positive energy. It really, truly helps!
• Share and Care
• share their own experiences who are further down the road, and continue to fight like mad!!
• Smile
• speak up no one understand what my family and I are going through like people like us!
• Spread the word to others that we all need the love and support from family and friends. Tell them "We need to take care of each other" We can not do it alone. Check out www.mammosite.com for information on breast cancer awarenes
• Stop telling me I'm going to be OK..it's never ok anymore :)
• suggestions to cope
• Support Everest Rocks!!
• Support the Testicular Cancer Society and/or anything to make Cancer a National Priority
• talk to me like a person
• Tell me "beat the odds" sorts of stories.
• Tell people to get regular colo rectal screenings
• Telling me more jokes so i won't stop laughing.
• We will make an arrangement with a local colon cancer support group.
• would like to talk to others with same type of cancer